Second Anniversary

7 Jan 09 – Today is the second anniversary of a very important date in my life. Two years ago, on this day, I was given the most precious gift in my life. It was my first time; I was so thrilled and excited with this big surprise. Although some of the mothers may have forgotten this date, but I can still remember it vividly.

So, what exactly is the date that I’m talking about? On this day, I found out that I was pregnant. It came so sudden and unexpected. My husband and I were so excited and happy. We quickly announced our pregnancy to our parents.

Coincidentally, this date is also my husband’s birthday! So, it was a ‘double happiness’ for us. On 7 Jan 07, we went for a nice dinner to celebrate my husband’s 31st birthday. After the dinner, we went for shopping. I happened to walk pass Watson’s and so I thought of buying a home pregnancy test kit. I had this feeling that I’ve missed my period for a while.

I really didn’t expect myself to be pregnant. Reason – my menstruation cycle can be quite irregular at times due to stress or lack of sleep. So, I thought that perhaps it’s just another stress factor.

When I saw the two pink lines for the first time, I squeaked with delight. “Dear, I’m pregnant!” Both of us were so happy with our new 'discovery' that night. Our smart little Edison has chosen a good date to inform Daddy & Mummy on his arrival.

As mentioned earlier, today is my husband’s birthday. I’ll be taking half day off this afternoon to celebrate this special day with him.

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To My Wonderful Husband,
Happy Birthday to You! My love for you grows and grows with each passing year. Wish you a great year ahead with lots and lots of luck.--

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Our First Post Baby Date

Yesterday, my husband and I took some time-off from work to go for a date. It was our very first post baby date! We have been craving for some personal time together and we finally made it!

With work commitments and a child at home, the time that I spend with my husband has been scarce. In addition, my husband’s new job requires him to work on shift. This means, he has to work on alternate weekends. Due to all these factors, sometimes we neglect each other’s need for love and affection.

My friend once told me, ‘We can’t be circling our children 365 days a year, 24 hours a day. We need to have some time for ourselves and our husband.’ I totally agree with her.

Now that we go dating, I feel ‘connected’ to him again. I see him as my boyfriend, instead of my husband and father of our child. I recalled all the lovely things that we did when we were dating each other. We have so much of time, we have so many things to do, we share the same dream and we love each other. Catching those moments of togetherness now, it’s simply amazing!

We took a nice long stroll along Orchard Road. Do our regular shopping, leisurely and with slow speed. Anyway, it’s just the two of us! NO searching for baby changing room, NO changing diaper, NO feeding. Nothing. We just take our own sweet time.
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After all the fun, we went for a buffet dinner. We called up Ellenborough Market Café at Swissotel Merchant Court. But they were fully booked! We ended up with international buffet at Sakura, Orchard Shopping Centre. From 7pm onwards, the restaurant was full of people. Hey, I thought Singapore has entered a ‘technical recession’?!?! It seems like buffet business is not affected at all.

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We had a huge dinner - sushi, sashimi, prawns, tom yam seafood soup, herbal prawn soup, herbal black chicken soup, baked oyster, mussels, spaghetti, siew mai, dumpling roll, yam paste, beef steak, otah, satay and lots of fruits. I can't imagine I can eat so much food!

After our dinner, we quickly rushed back to fetch our little Edison home. As usual, he was super excited when he saw us. He knew that Daddy & Mummy had a great time.

It was an excellent evening. Both of us had a good dose of couple time. We definitely need more of this!--

Marriage Life - Before & After

I seem to have a different perspective of marriage life after I gave birth to Edison. I used to believe that having children would greatly increase the chance of marital stability. But now, I have a different thinking. Having children will improve the likelihood of collapse of marriages.

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Well, is this exactly true?

Before Edison was born, we rarely quarrel. Every time when my hubby went on an overseas assignment, I missed him terribly. We talked on the phone everyday without fail. I would count down by days till he returned from his trip. I would give him a really big HUG when he returned. Those were the days.

But now, my hubby and I aren’t always happy. We both have our own parenting style; we have our own commitment to work and our parents; and we think differently too. Sometimes our difference in opinion and mindset caused us to fight. Small arguments are too common. But then, there are BIG fights that involve crying, screaming, swearing and even hurtful statements. There are times that I can’t help but keep thinking that we are just not meant for each other. Worst case scenario is we avoid talking to each other for days. Yes, it’s true! The more we talk, the more we fight! I choose to remain silent.

When my anger has suppressed, I began to think rationally again. What really caused us to fight? How can I handle this matter tactfully in future? How could I scream at someone like him? How could I not realize what a perfect family that I have? But I was squandering my precious time fighting with him. Am I crazy?!

Then I realized that in a relationship, it involves a lot of gives and takes, respect and sacrifice for each other. I’m trying my very best to become kinder, more patient, always keep my temper under control and be a more thoughtful person. Isn’t that simple?

Sometimes love can be as simple as letting one go to sleep when the person is tired. Other times, it comes in the form of red roses or a nice dinner. Marriage isn’t always easy, but love can be - if both of us are willing to put in a little bit of effort.

I wish always cherish my family; my dear husband and my adorable son. I love both of you so much!

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